How Counselling Works

The Process

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  • This free introductory meeting will allow you to ask questions, learn about the various services, and discover what you'd like to achieve.

Introductory Meeting

The Counselling Process

Counselling and life coaching don't typically immediately resolve your issues and personal objectives. I offer a program of sessions, so my clients have the opportunity to receive the maximum benefit and ultimately achieve lasting results.

Step 1

Introductory Meeting

Free Initial Consultation

Step 2

Discovery Session

Build Rapport and Share Information

Ongoing

Ongoing Sessions

Counselling

The Process

The Trauma Counselling Process

Introduction to Trauma Recovery

Recovery is the primary goal for people who have experienced trauma, their families, and their care providers. Recovery does not necessarily mean complete freedom from post-traumatic effects. Recovery is an individual experience and will be and look different for everyone. In general, recovery is the ability to live in the present without being overwhelmed by the thoughts and feelings of the past.

 

Trauma recovery is a process that is worked on over time and in intentional stages. The re-establishing of safety is the first and most crucial step in recovery regardless of whether the details of the trauma are ever discussed or disclosed.

Central to the experience of trauma is helplessness, isolation and the loss of power and control. The guiding principles of trauma recovery are the restoration of safety and empowerment. Recovery is the ability to live in the present without being overwhelmed by the thoughts and feelings of the past.

Trauma Counselling Introduction

Safety and Stabilization

Trauma Recovery Stage 1

People affected by trauma tend to feel unsafe in their bodies and their relationships with others. Regaining a sense of safety may take days to weeks with acutely traumatized individuals or months to years with individuals who have experienced ongoing/chronic abuse. Figuring out what areas of life need to be stabilized and how that will be accomplished will help move toward recovery.

Trauma Recovery Stage 1

The experience of being emotionally overwhelmed by trauma is similar to bottle of soda that's been shaken. Inside the bottle there is a buildup of pressure. The safest way to release the pressure is to open and close the cap in a slow, cautious, and intentional manner. Over time, the pressure is released carefully and in a way that is never overwhelming.

  • A person that has experienced trauma may struggle with regulating or soothing difficult emotions in their everyday life.
  • Over time the person recovers by learning how to regulate and manage these challenging or overwhelming emotions.
Trauma Recovery: Stage 1

Remembrance and Mourning

Trauma Recovery Stage 2

In stage 2 the trauma survivor has the task of processing their trauma by making meaning from their experiences. It is important to spend time in this phase working through the traumatic experience in small pieces. The counsellor continually attends to the safety and stability of the survivor. The goal of this stage is to integrate their trauma, rather than reacting to it with a fight, flight, or freeze response.

Trauma Recovery Stage 2

Pacing and timing are crucial during this phase. If the trauma survivor becomes suddenly overwhelmed and emotionally flooded while talking about their trauma memories; safety and stability must be regained before they can process their story. The objective of this stage is to explore their trauma in a safe and healing environment. The crucial task is to mourn the losses associated with the trauma while maintaining a safe space to grieve, express emotions, and process what's happened.

Trauma Recovery Stage 2

Reconnection and Integration

Trauma Recovery Stage 3

In this phase, the trauma survivor creates a new sense of self and envisions a new future. This final task involves redefining oneself in the context of meaningful relationships. Through this process, the trauma no longer defines the survivor and their experiences become an important part of their past. Their trauma becomes integrated into their life story but it no longer defines them.

Trauma Recovery Stage 3

The events are not forgotten and the trauma survivor has more clarity, understanding and meaning. They have started the process of knowing themselves at a deeper level. Resiliency begins to surface and they learn their inner strengths outweigh external events or traumatic memories.

Trauma Recovery: Stage 3

Recovery is Unique to Each Person

Recovery is a process that's unique to each individual. The immediate impulse of the trauma survivor is to feel well quickly and make the feelings go away. This is a completely understandable and healthy reaction to difficult feelings. Sometimes the process feels like it's taking too long and at other times the trauma survivor may question if they are doing it “right”. Recovery is not the absence of thoughts and feelings associated with their trauma.

Trauma Counselling Summary

It is important to be gentle, patient, and compassionate with yourself while you move through this healing process. The ultimate goal of trauma recovery is to live with trauma without it controlling or disrupting your life. Trauma is a vital part of the human experience. Trauma is something we all share in common and traumatic events can bring us together.

You may even experience post-traumatic growth.

Kevin William Grant

My name is Kevin William Grant, I am a Registered Professional Counsellor Candidate (RPC-C) with a Master's in Clinical Psychology. One of my biggest passions in life is being able to support others while they are going through a difficult time. We all experience or have experienced situations in our lives that can have us feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or just stuck. I believe that empathy, empowerment, problem solving, and a listening ear from even one compassionate person can transform a life.

Review my testimonials section and explore how this approach has benefited my clients.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Getting the Most out of Your Sessions

The sessions in all my programs will be a mix of discussion, questions, self-discovery, planning, learning new tools.

The counselling and coaching process will always be tailored specifically to you and will ensure you stay on track to achieve results. I am there to guide and support you throughout your journey.

Getting Started

I recommend that you arrange a free introductory meeting so we can chat and see if counselling or coaching is the right path for you. There is no obligation.

More Information

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Refund Policy

Payment is in advance unless there are special circumstances.

Be assured that if the process is not working out after the first two sessions for a mutually agreed and discussed reason, either of us can terminate the professional relationship with an appropriate refund.

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Benefits of Video Collaboration